The first time I came to Playa del Carmen, Mexico was eight years ago. I had found out about it from friends and finally convinced my then husband that it would be a great spot for us to go on vacation which I booked. You see in my marriage I was the one taking the initiative when it came to doing things like organizing trips. He would make fun of me being Austrian and having a knack for precision project management. (He certainly did have point there.)
Upon booking the flight and hotel I was asked if I wanted to also get a rental car and the adventurer in me said heck yes, how much fun would that be exploring the area driving around. Well, my ex-husband was quick to point out that that was not going to be possible.
Even though he is Mexican-American, born and raised in Los Angeles he had bought into the story that Mexico was a dangerous and very unsafe place where we could not drive, because God knows what could happen. He painted a very colorful scenario: We could get carjacked, assaulted, kidnapped or worst case scenario killed. Okay, I said more than a little disappointed and off we went exploring what he deemed to be the safe way… by bus.
I was reminded of this time in my life this weekend as I was driving from Playa del Carmen to Tulum on a Mexican highway in a rental car …. by myself. I actually felt pretty proud about how eight years later (which does not seem that long ago) I have overcome the limiting belief that I cannot do what I desire. And for a short moment I wished he could see me right now, confidently driving without a shred of fear inside of me, going to my happy place.
You see for most of my life I have been told what I cannot do.
I can’t move out of my parents house at age 17 and support myself – WRONG!
I can’t graduate high-school and go to university without their financial support – WRONG!
I can’t move to the US at age 26 and make a living – WRONG!
I can’t go and visit Colombia because I am going to get killed if I do- WRONG!
I can’t drive in Mexico – WRONG!
I can’t start a business because who am I to do so – WRONG!
You see those are all beliefs and stories somebody else had implanted in me a long time ago. The gist of it was that I had to be complacent, count my blessings, that certain things were just not going to be in the cards for me, that I had to be fearful of all the bad things that COULD happen, insert one doomsday scenario after the other here,… so better just be content with what I have because that’ll have to do that is just how life is – WRONG!
I desired to do all these things, I set my mind on them, I pushed through the fear and I trusted that I was supported and looked after by a higher power and so they became possible and a reality. The same is true for you. If you feel a burning desire inside of you, a calling of sorts, something that really makes your heart sing, don’t let anybody else tell you that you can’t do it.
This is your higher self guiding you on the path of finding you true purpose in life. You would not be able to conceive of such a desire if the possibility of its fulfillment did not exist.
Trust that you are supported, have faith and go for it wholeheartedly.
Much love,
Simona
2 replies to "You limiting beliefs are just stories somebody else gave you"
Fabulous article! It is amazing how we create these stories to keep us from playing a bigger game. I say – move out of my way, smash through those roadblocks as the world is waiting for you!
Thanks Ange and yes let’s smash them because they are not serving you.