If you can’t follow through on your commitments no matter how hard you try, chances are you have come up against an inner defense mechanism – RESISTANCE. Here’s what this can look like:
You are fully committed to making a big change in your life or business.
You are willing to invest in yourself at a higher level, you know you might have to learn a new skill set, you’re ready to do the work, yet when it’s time for the rubber to hit the road, you can’t seem to follow through.
Instead of giving in to frustration and starting to beat up on yourself, know that you’re not alone and that there’s nothing wrong with you. You’ve come up against an inner roadblock that stops you in your tracks EVERY.SINGLE.TIME.
What’s happening is that you’re resisting being, doing or having something and you might not even be aware of it.
Here are 7 of the most common obstacles we face the minute we make a decision to step into our next chapter, be that
- Quitting your corporate job and starting your own business
- Making a big career transition
- Uprooting your life and moving to a different country
- Scaling your business to the next level…
and how you can overcome them.
7. LACK OF URGENCY
What this comes down to is that you don’t want it bad enough (no judgment here) but you’re thinking of it as a “nice-to-have”, not a MUST HAVE that you can’t live without. Truth be told you’re comfortable where you’re at. So, to overcome this you have to create some urgency. Set a deadline for yourself by when you’re going to do it and then work your way back from that date and start preparing your foundation. Or let go of your current security blanket. For example, if you’re looking to transition from corporate into your own business, the minute you quit your job and that steady paycheck is not coming in, you’re shifting into urgency.
6. REPLACING YOUR CORPORATE OR CURRENT INCOME
This is one of the questions I get often: “How long is it going to take me until I replace my corporate income with my business?”
It depends. First, you got to determine your offer, identify your buyers, price it correctly, get the word out about it and then get good at selling it. The faster you master your marketing and sales process, the faster you’ll replace your current income.
5. BRIGHT SHINY OBJECT SYNDROME
Getting distracted by the promise of taking a shortcut to success. There’s a lot of false advertising out there promising quick-step formulas where you wake up to cash in the bank every morning. If it sounds too good to be true, it is too good to be true. The only road that leads to success is DOING THE WORK. Period.
4. LACK OF CONFIDENCE
You feel you need more training and preparation before you can get started. That’s why there is always another program or certification that you need to get before you can make your move. STOP IT! You are ready now. Make a decision and get started at once right where you are at. What this comes down to, is that you are not confident in your own abilities. And you can’t get over that one unless you start doing the thing and prove to yourself that yes, you can do it. That’s how you build your confidence in the first place.
“Create a definite plan for carrying out your desire and begin at once, whether you are ready or not, to put this plan into action.” Napoleon Hill
3. NOT HAVING THE RIGHT SUPPORT SYSTEM
As you embark on this journey of creating the life you truly desire, it’s imperative to surround yourself with people who are holding your vision high especially when the going gets tough as it will many times. If you don’t have people around you that believe in you and your vision that encourage you to keep going that listen and that give you positive feedback it’s easy to quit or to never get started. Set up your support system with like-minded people, who can stay objective, who are not here to please you and who are not afraid to give you some tough love when you need to hear it so that you can break through your own limitations. Those could be mastermind partners, coaches or mentors.
2. NOT OWNING YOUR GIFT
You have a fear of success and what you’d be losing the minute you own your brilliance and become extraordinarily successful. So you’re constantly playing down your achievements, you’re not ever fully expressing your gifts so that you are on the same playing field as the rest of the world because you’re afraid you’d be judged or lose the love of close friends and family when you showed yourself as who you truly are. That’s a tough one and it’s firmly rooted in what you believe about yourself. Here you need to really examine what’s going on deep down inside of you, and if what you believe about yourself on a core level is in alignment with the vision that you have for your life. If you find that your beliefs are not congruent with what you desire to create for yourself, you must transform them.
1.HIDING
You have a fear to be seen, that’s why you’re hiding. That can take many forms. Hiding behind the laptop instead of being out there in the world telling people about how you can help them with your product or services. Holding back your truth, pleasing instead of boldly speaking up. Taking yet another training, getting yet another certification before you can step out and show the world, who you are. Working on your website, your brochures, business cards, blog posts all safe activities where it doesn’t require you to been seen. If you recognize yourself here, you are not alone.
In this case, you have to ask yourself “Why am I hiding?”, “What am I afraid of? In many cases what this goes back to is that at some point in your life it wasn’t safe to be seen. At that moment you developed hiding as a coping mechanism which served you well but now it’s getting in the way of you achieving your goals.
And when you drill down what you’re likely going to find is a deep-rooted underlying belief that it’s not safe for you to be seen. That’s the belief that you must transform so that you can overcome this obstacle and step out in a big way, sharing your message, what you stand for with the world so that you ultimately can be successful.
If you want to learn more about how to overcome this inner resistance and how to transform a belief so that it no longer gets in the way of you achieving your life and business goals, listen to this free recording where I break it down in great detail.
Simona Ksoll is a personal mentor to entrepreneurs & creatives helping them bring their big inner vision to life. Follow her on Facebook, LinkedIn and join her private Facebook Community.